[senco-forum] SEBD long help please

Help if you can.This is quite long.
We have a boy just gone in to Yr3, June birthday, big for his age. He has
caused huge problems at home with his behaviour since reception year. At
school, a steady decline since the beginning of Y2. We have has support
from our KS1 Behaviour Support team, and every other agency you can think
of Parent partnership, social services, Ed Psyc, Clinical Psyc,
CAMHS,local parent support charity, offer of Webster Stratton training for
mum - she didn't feel able to take this up. Accident at home, Cp issues,
parents split up. He has been screened for everything we can think of. In
desperation CAMHS are thinking of trying Ritalin. This child is taking up
at least 20% of my time. Current situation is difficult. High level
disruption, loud shouting, oppositional behaviours, insults and abuse,
climbing both in in and outside school, running around shouting etc. In
short, we are at a loss. Has been referred to PRU - but full of
permenantly excluded children, so no places and waiting list closed. Have
managed to get PRU outreach support for two, one hour sessions a week.
Have tried lots of strategies based on rewards/sanctions. On top of that
we have a new head teacher who is great, but a little taken aback.
Child is staying with dad for 4 days whilst mum has to do some other
things which cannot wait. So I have 4 days to try and think of a way
forward. Forgot to say he is taught by 3 staff each day, due to the way
KS2 swap teachers for Lit num and foundation subjects. I don't think this
is at all good for him - but in the short term cannot change it.
Has anyone else dealt with this successfully?
As he walks through the classroom door shouting - 'you can't get me - too
late ha ha ha' I think we are approaching either restraint, exclusion or
bot ! - Would much rather avoid both of these. I need to have a structure
in place to support both him and the teachers. He does like helping in
nursery, but the poor nursery teacher has enough on her plate. Any advice
or suggestions of useful resources or web sites would be welcome. Thanks
for reading this - don't judge us too harshly, there are reasons I can't
discuss which have led to this situation getting to this stage. Thanks in
advance. Lynn .