[senco-forum] working with EPs

I have had a horrible afternoon! During a discussion on the difficulties 
of taking a TA from one set of needy children to support a child at risk 
of permanent exclusion I managed to upset our EP such that she announced 
she was  taking a  break and left the room for 5 minutes. I of course 
took it personally, so when she came back I ended up leaving to go and 
howl in the toilets!(Very professional.) She assured me that it was not 
personal, but rather the difficulties posed by working with devolved 
funding. I think my EP comes with all the angst from other schools and 
unloads it one me, without really listening to what I'm saying.We always 
seem to end up arguing about Statementing, and the EPs role. This is not 
an argument I want to have, I just want to do the best for each child in 
the school.
 Does anybody else find working with EPs this difficult? The EP at my  
previous school had  strong views on the meaning of inclusion and 
upset   number of staff to such an extent that they refused to work with 
her! some of the staff concerned were struggling to meet the needs of 
SEN children in their class but surely the job of an EP is to work with 
staff ,not antagonise them?
Anyone out there got suggestions on how to cope more professionally next 
time?
K