Fwd: [senco-forum] would this wording put you off?

adapt to growing lesser needs than it is to tighten up and get more -

Sorry to read that you are ill, on top of all the distress caused by
having to fight for your son's right to proper provision.

With thoughts and prayers,

Jean

S Wales

You're right to go for the max at this stage. It is much easier to
> adapt to growing lesser needs than it is to tighten up and get more -
> and Year 7 is *always* an abysmal time for these kids.  You want the
> max at least for that first year.  Once she's settled in, it can be
> reviewed.  I don't think it reflects badly on your daughter. How can
> it??!  Schools can't refuse you a place just because of the level of
> support needed - they have a policy of inclusion.
>
> And LAs have LA speak.  Mostly it goes on the lines of 'there's only
> one pot of money' and you (parent) are very bad if you want to snaffle
> some of it for your child'.  It was only when I heard someone from
> another LA say exactly almost word for word what I'd heard from my own
> that I realised there's a script.  (I'm joking - there's no script,
> just the same 'hymn sheet'.)
>
> I have wondered, if there's only one pot, who all this money in the
> pot is for when the message seems to be the same for all parents ie
> it's not for YOU, no matter how challenged your child is.  They seem
> so frightened that if they give an inch, you'll take it all that
> there's very little cooperation.  That makes it into an adversarial
> situation from the start. And nobody puts the child in the centre so
> you can work from what would be perfect to what would be possible -
> you have to chip away with a great deal of uncertainty and the
> 'professionals' causing further confusion.
>
> But what happens when we can no longer fight for our children.  I have
> given up in despair.  After a couple of years of politely fighting a
> crazy (beyond comprehension) situation which caused our whole family a
> great deal of distress, I find myself now fighting cancer.  And while
> I fight to stay alive, my son is dispensed with, out of the system.
> At least his mental health is stable, he's happy enough and I pray
> that it is true that he'll take to FE when the time comes. I am
> outraged at the damage that has been done to my family by 'the
> system'. Keep fighting - yes, even the LA told us that what we have to
> do.  But at what cost?
> A
>
>
> On 21/08/07, lk s <lks1985 at hotmail.com> wrote:
>> Thankyou all so much for your replies. Biff as ever your comments were
>> very
>> helpful and your typing beautiful! Also Brendan and others who have
>> replied,
>> you have given me much to think about. I personally think my LA are
>> spinning
>> me a line and laying a guilt trip on me, which they do on a regular
>> basis.
>> They have implied that if I insist on the wording 1:1 designated
>> support, it
>> will in some way reflect badly on my daughter. When you think that the
>> annual review was held in April and we are still not in agreement, you
>> can
>> understand I'm sure how tired I am of it all. I have in fact 'written' a
>> large chunk of this proposed ammended statement myself, as the original
>> proposals were dire. But still the LA continue to be unable/unwilling to
>> specify. They say that in statements they always put that children will
>> have
>> access to specialist teachers and do not specify how often etc. because
>> it
>> is up to the school to call on this support when needed. I wanted to
>> check
>> on forum mainly to see if a statement that specifies 1:1 support in
>> class
>> would in some way be detrimental to my daughter. The statement states
>> quite
>> clearly what support would need to be provided and by whom in class.
>> This is
>> expected to be by an L.S.A. whose primary role would be to ensure that
>> daughter accesses all lessons and reaches her learning potential. I'm
>> not a
>> fool and of course I want to see her become a more independent learner
>> and
>> take more responsibility for herself but realistically in some lessons
>> this
>> is unlikely to happen. I know the pressure schools are under to support
>> all
>> children with sen, but the support in her statement is for her and it
>> has
>> been a long and very upsetting process getting it! I am tempted now to
>> ask
>> the LA to finalise the statement and then go to tribunal where they can
>> put
>> forward why they think using phrases such as opportunities to, will have
>> frequent access to, should be given opportunities to etc are acceptable.
>>
>>
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