[senco-forum] RE: Parents who make allegations about what has been said...

Oh come on please.  

  I find this reaction offensive to those of us who are trying to do a professional job.

  There are stroppy, litigious and horrible parents out there who will do anything to prove a school is wrong about their child just as there are schools who do not do what is needed and parents are right to get angry.  
  I have dealt with all kinds of parents over the years (and step parents) and I know that almost without exception they have the best interests of their children at heart.  Most are a pleasure to work with and, obviously, some have SEN issues of their own.
  However, I have only once, a very long time ago, met parents whose talk about school bore no relation to any of what we knew about their child.  The child was doing well - but the parents refused to believe that he did not have massive problems.  And he did, of course, begin to fail because he could not succeed when he was being told at home that school was useless.
  Amanda
  Secondary SENCO
  Cornwall

Alyson Mountjoy <saylon_uk at yahoo.co.uk> wrote:
  "What an absolutely appalling and offensive attitude
you have towards parents and step-parents in
particular. "

Thank you June, I'm glad it wasn't just me that
thought that. The child couldn't have been that "lazy"
either, with a good set of GCSEs. Poor kid.

Did the parents feel he was struggling despite what
you found to be the case? Perhaps he was dual
exceptionalities. How do you know the parents didn't
have processing issues? If the son had literacy
issues, I'd bet my house there were processing issues
in there somewhere. You can't make broad assumptions
based largely on the fact that you obviously didn't
like them.

Concerned parents are often thought of as "awkward",
but we all know that the ones that just accept what
they are told never get anywhere. Those parents that
fight for the rights of children don't do it to win
popularity contests, they do it becuase they have no
choice. And because it is their legal right....and
because nobody else will do it.

Best wishes,
Aly

Chair Auditory Processing Disorder in the UK/APDUK
www.lacewingmultimedia.com/APD.htm 
www.apduk.org

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Amanda
Secondary SENCO
Cornwall